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	<title>Adrift at Sea</title>
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		<title>Honoring Commitments</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/02/04/honoring-commitments/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:46:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Two symbols of commitment—the wedding band that Gee gave me and the turkshead bracelet I made for Ellie. I wear them both to honor the memories of these two amazing women and to show the life-long commitment I made to each of them. Last summer, before I realized the extent of Ellie&#8217;s addictions, I promised [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Would I Do It Again?</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/31/do-it-again/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/31/do-it-again/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 12:47:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Family & Friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[My Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2720</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The Serenity Prayer or Neibhur&#8217;s Prayer starts with an almost universally recongized: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. My friend Grant wrote that being a twin isn&#8217;t always easy, but he wouldn&#8217;t trade it [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Wisdom From A Fox</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/27/wisdom-from-a-fox/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/27/wisdom-from-a-fox/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Jan 2012 10:37:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[My Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[fox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[responsibility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[saying goodbye]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[the little prince]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[walking away]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wisdom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2714</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Here is my secret. It&#8217;s quite simple: One sees clearly only with the heart. Anything essential is invisible to the eyes&#8230;It is the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important&#8230;People have forgotten this truth. But you mustn&#8217;t forget it. You become responsible forever for what you have tamed. You&#8217;re responsible [...]]]></description>
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		<title>A Handful of Dust</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/27/a-handful-of-dust/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/27/a-handful-of-dust/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Jan 2012 09:33:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[My Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drinking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drugs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drunk driving]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[moving on]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2700</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I will show you fear in a handful of dust —The Waste Land, T.S. Eliot I don&#8217;t think that most people actually fear death, I think we fear that no one will notice our absence—that we will disappear without a trace. Ellie need never fear this, because she will always be missed by me. Though [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Her Silence</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/25/her-silence/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/25/her-silence/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:18:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[denial]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[help]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[silence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[truth]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2678</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Update: Ellie has locked her social media accounts, so that confirms it. The woman I love is truly gone. If any part of her were still there fighting, she would have left that line of communication open, but it seems that she has finally succumbed to her addictions as I suspected. Goodbye my beloved, I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Etta James, RIP</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/20/at-last-etta-james-rip/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/20/at-last-etta-james-rip/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Jan 2012 21:12:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Events]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Music]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[At Last]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cancer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chemotherapy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Etta James]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[honor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Michelle]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wedding]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2634</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Etta James, probably best known for her song At Last, just passed away. It&#8217;s sad to hear for me because Etta and At Last were what Gee and I picked for our wedding 12 years ago. We didn&#8217;t even have to discuss it&#8230;it was the first choice for both of us. Even today, over a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Last Chances</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/17/last-chances/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/17/last-chances/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:28:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2571</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Ellie— I don&#8217;t even know if you still read my blog. Given that you haven&#8217;t said anything or done anything about what I&#8217;ve tried to tell you, I am guessing that you aren&#8217;t reading my blog any more or don&#8217;t care what I say anymore. If, by chance, you are still reading this blog and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>A Card for Ellie&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/16/a-card-for-ellie/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/16/a-card-for-ellie/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jan 2012 06:09:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[friendship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marijuana]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[promise]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[vow]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2481</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Ellie— I don&#8217;t even know if you still read my blog. Given that you haven&#8217;t said anything or done anything about what I&#8217;ve tried to tell you, I am guessing that you aren&#8217;t reading my blog any more or don&#8217;t care what I say anymore. If, by chance, you are still reading this blog and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Food and Memory</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/13/food-memory/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/13/food-memory/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jan 2012 04:08:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Cooking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family & Friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[My Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bing soo]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bingsoo]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cheese-filled]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cheesecakes]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chicken wings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[food]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Galbi]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Memories]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tortellini]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Yoon Joo]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2337</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Today, I had cheese stuffed tortellini for the first time in over a decade. It is strange, but I didn&#8217;t realize that I hadn&#8217;t bought or made this type of pasta in over ten years, even though it was always one of my favorites. It was also a dish that I cooked a lot for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Come Home Ellie</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/11/come-home/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/11/come-home/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 21:37:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[home]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2313</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[If it isn’t obvious to you how much I love you, you’re really quite an idiot. If it isn’t obvious that I am here for you and only want to help you get better—help you get back to being who you really are—you’re not paying any attention. Let me make it clear—I love you, my [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Fare Thee Well, Love</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/06/fare-thee-well-love/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/06/fare-thee-well-love/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 13:31:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mourning]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2244</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[The words of this song almost perfectly express my feelings at losing Ellie to her illness. I miss her. I grieve for her. I hope where ever she goes, that she someday remember how much I love her. I always have loved her, and always will. There are no goodbyes between us, for I know [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Here I Am</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/01/here-i-am/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2012/01/01/here-i-am/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2012 12:56:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[committment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drugs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[frendship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=2048</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I will always be here for Ellie, the woman that loves me. I will always love the amazing, intelligent, beautiful, smart, funny, stubborn, freckled, Irish woman with the red hair and feisty temper, as I have her whole life. I will always care for the woman that learned to say &#8220;sarangheyo&#8221;, so she could tell [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Happy New Year&#8217;s Eve 2011</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/31/nye-2011/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/31/nye-2011/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 31 Dec 2011 13:30:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Events]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family & Friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[2011]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[2012]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addict]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drugs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[faith]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[happiness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[happy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[New Year]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[New Year's Eve Day]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unconditional love]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1988</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Happy New Year&#8217;s Eve to all my friends and family. This is the last day of the year and I, for one, am very happy to see 2011 end. I hope the New Year brings all of you success, health and happiness. I hope that 2012 will be a better year for many of us. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why I Stay</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/29/why_i_stay/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Dec 2011 12:58:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[compassion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drugs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Duty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[friendship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[maturity]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1896</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[There are reasons each of us is born. We have to find those reasons. After Gee died I wondered why I was still here. I knew who I was and what I was supposed to be doing when Gee was alive. I was her husband and my place was beside her. After she died, I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sentinel</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/28/sentinel/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/28/sentinel/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 22:53:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[college]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[economics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[macro-economics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[on watch]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[statistics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tutoring]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1852</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Just recently, Ellie posted: Never done so much accounting in my life&#8230; next semester is going to be a challenge..stats econ accounting macro&#8230; I don&#8217;t think she even realizes how difficult those classes are going to be for her. Given how much trouble she was having this semester with classes that are relatively far simpler [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Weather Goddess</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/25/the-weather-goddess/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Dec 2011 15:47:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Essays]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family & Friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[My Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dying]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[promises]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[transcending death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[weather goddess]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1632</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A little over ten-and-a-half years ago, Gee came home for the last time. It was Thursday, June 7th, 2001. She had been released from the hospital, where she had been since May 28th, Memorial Day, for home hospice care. As I carried her into the house, what she said to me was bittersweet. She said, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Identity Theft</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/23/identity-theft/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/23/identity-theft/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Dec 2011 17:12:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Security]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Stupidity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1768</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I recently saw an ad on TV for a company that says they can protect you from &#8220;identity theft&#8221;. Identity, by definition, can not be stolen. Identity can be defined as: the condition of being oneself or itself, and not another. While someone can pretend to be you&#8230;they can not actually be you. Granted, if [...]]]></description>
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		<title>A Holiday Survival Guide</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/23/a-holiday-survival-guide/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/23/a-holiday-survival-guide/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Dec 2011 14:31:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Events]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[holidays]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sobriety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[support]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Survival Guide]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1756</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Holidays, present a difficult situation for many recovering alcoholics, since the parties of the season often involve alcoholic beverages, and one may not want it known that they are a recovering alcoholic. The Crying out Now blog provides a pretty good list of tips for those trying to maintain their sobriety during this time of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dear Santa</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/22/dear-santa/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/22/dear-santa/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2011 16:07:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dear Santa]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[guide]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[letter to santa]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[protect]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[santa claus]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1745</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Dear Santa, I’ve been a very good boy this year. I have a very simple request for Christmas&#8211;can I just have Ellie please? I know she&#8217;s not perfect, but I do love her warts and all. I think she&#8217;s beautiful, smart and funny. I know she&#8217;s the one I was told to look for 10 [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Christmas Wishes and Hopes</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/15/christmas-wishes-and-hopes/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/15/christmas-wishes-and-hopes/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Dec 2011 07:41:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[christmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[miracles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wishes]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1636</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I am wishing all of my friends and family a Merry Christmas and hope the New Year brings them all success, health and happiness. I also have some simple wishes and hopes for this Christmas season. First, I wish that Ellie, the beautiful, smart, funny, tough, feisty, and stubborn woman I love realizes she has [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Crying Out Now</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/13/crying-out-now/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/13/crying-out-now/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Dec 2011 11:48:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blog]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Crying Out Now]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1647</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[It is strange what you can find on Google. I found this article by doing a search on a whim for &#8220;recovery&#8221;, &#8220;love&#8221;, &#8220;addiction&#8221; and &#8220;Ellie&#8221;. I wish Ellie would read this article. While I don&#8217;t believe her father has ever beaten her mother, he is very emotionally abusive towards Ellie&#8217;s mother. I guess that [...]]]></description>
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		<title>One Reason I Stay</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/12/one-reason-i-stay/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/12/one-reason-i-stay/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Dec 2011 21:08:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Duty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[home]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mo chroi]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mo chuisle]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[querencia]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[responsibility]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1618</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[One reason I stay is that when I am with Ellie, time flows slowly past—dim and diffuse as the pre-dawn light through early morning fog over the harbor—warmth and her love pour into me—a balm that heals the wounds I have borne for many years. When I am with her I realize how lonely and [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Not as it seems</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/10/not-as-it-seems/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/10/not-as-it-seems/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Dec 2011 17:36:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug addict]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[friendship]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[trust]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1588</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[One thing my friend Carrie has pointed out is that she sees how one-sided my relationship with Ellie appears to be. However, everything is not as it seems. Much of what Carrie has read about Ellie is what her addiction to drugs and alcohol has made her do. They were written after Ellie fell ill, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>One More Day</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/02/one-more-day/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/12/02/one-more-day/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:31:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Music]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholic]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cancer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[drug abuse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1561</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[When I first heard One More Day, I was driving Gee&#8217;s little Saturn, and nearly drove off the road because of the tears that made seeing the road almost impossible. It sums up what I felt after she died better than any words I could express myself. This is one of my favorite songs&#8230;I believe [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Thanksgiving 2011</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/24/thanksgiving-2011/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/24/thanksgiving-2011/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Nov 2011 11:32:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Events]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family & Friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[2011]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[happy]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[prayer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[thanksgiving]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1532</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Wishing all my family and friends a very Happy Thanksgiving. May this holiday find all of you happy, healthy and safe. I ask that my beloved weather goddess watch over all of you during your travels this week. May you all have safe journeys to warm hearths and berths this week. Even though this has [...]]]></description>
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		<title>I know&#8230;.</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/15/i-know/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/15/i-know/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Nov 2011 15:16:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1514</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Ellie, this pretty much says it all&#8230; Girl says: I can&#8217;t promise you perfection, Cause that is not who I am. I can&#8217;t promise you forever, Cause I don&#8217;t hold fate within my hands. I can&#8217;t promise you the sunshine, Because I know there will be rain. I can&#8217;t promise you complete happiness, Cause with [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When I said&#8230;.</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/11/when-i-said/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/11/when-i-said/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 07:11:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcohol]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[amends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[destruction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[devotion]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loyalty]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[salvation]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1477</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Since I can not tell you myself, I am writing this post and hoping that the message here eventually makes its way to you somehow. When I said I love you, I meant forever and a day, because forever isn&#8217;t long enough. When I said I love you, I meant warts and all, just because [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Happy Anniversary</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/04/happy-anniversary/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/04/happy-anniversary/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Nov 2011 11:08:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with Gee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alcoholism]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anniversary]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[happiness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[joy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life with ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wedding]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1435</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Happy Anniversary Gee. I wish you were still here. It is hard to believe that you&#8217;ve been gone for over ten years now&#8230;and that it has been 11 years since I was lucky enough to marry you. It is even harder to realize that you&#8217;ve been gone for more than five times as long as [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Happy Halloween</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/10/31/happy-halloween/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/10/31/happy-halloween/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Oct 2011 22:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[costume]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[firefighter]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[halloween]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[treats]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tricks]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/2011/11/01/happy-halloween/</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I hope all my family and friends, especially my little one, had a safe and Happy Halloween. I hope you got the treats you deserve and not too many tricks. Unfortunately, I think my beautiful Irish lass skipped her classes today, because she posted about tricking her professors and treating herself by skipping her classes. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>My Tiny Dancer</title>
		<link>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/10/20/my-tiny-dancer/</link>
		<comments>http://blog.dankim.com/2011/10/20/my-tiny-dancer/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Oct 2011 15:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life with Ellie]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[caring]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[commitment]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Ellie]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[mo chroi]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[querencia]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[unconditional love]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blog.dankim.com/?p=1372</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[This is dedicated to Ellie, my beloved tiny dancer. I hope she eventually remembers who she really is and that I love her very much. I hope she can remember the truth of what we have been to each other&#8211;the years we have cared for each other, been friends, and loved each other. Part of [...]]]></description>
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