Archive for the 'Family & Friends' Category

Real Friends

A little over thirteen years ago, when Gee was in the hospital, one of my best friends came down to visit her. The previous Friday, he had walked into his boss’s office and told her that he was flying down to Virginia because he needed to be there for two people he loved–that his best […]

S/V Alina Marie

My friends Ralph and Alina brought their Tylercraft 26 to my marina on their way from the southern side of Long Island, where they bought the boat two years ago, back to Maine, where they live. That was two seasons ago. Earlier this season, Ralph and Alina got married. They have been working on recommissioning […]

Visiting s/v Freedom

Earlier this week, I sailed s/v Pretty Gee down to Cuttyhunk to visit with my friends Ed and Chris on their Endeavour 42 s/v Freedom. They’re on the southbound leg of a cruise down to the Caribbean. They set out a while back from the Great Lakes and don’t really have a set ending date […]

First Time Visitors

This past Saturday, I had the pleasure of taking my fellow twinless twins Anna Tse and Honey Langley out on s/v Pretty Gee. They hadn’t been sailing before so this was a new experience for them. I also had my friends Ken and Dottie Willits and Dave Cowles along for the ride. We started out […]

La Dolce Vita Visits Pretty Gee

Today, I was working on s/v Sea Spirit’s VHF radio. Ken and Dottie had been having some issues with it since stepping the mast and I wanted to make sure the wiring going up the mast hadn’t been damaged while stepping the mast. I checked the radio’s power and antenna connection with a VSWR meter […]

First Sail 2012

Today, Sunday, May 20, 2012, was the first sail of the 2012 season for s/v Pretty Gee. I was excited to have an old friend along for the sail. I hadn’t seen my friend Adrienne since 1997, when I moved to Virginia and she headed off to Belgium for a nine-year stint in the EU. […]

Easter Sunday

Today is Easter Sunday. In the Christian faith, it is a day of celebration, for Jesus Christ was resurrected from death on this day. The season of Lent is one of prayer, penance, death and resurrection. It is a season of hope, renewal and faith. Even though Easter holds some sad memories for me, I […]

People In Our Lives

The people in our lives who love us are a gift to us. We don’t know how long we will have them for, and we should always make sure that they know how much they mean to us. In some cases, we lose them very suddenly, like I did my twin when he was killed […]

What We Can Handle

I was hoping that this year was going to be better than last year. If it is going to turn out that way, I’m having a really tough time seeing it right now. I know that God never gives us more than we can handle…and right now, I’m dealing with everything on my plate, but […]

Ash Wednesday

Today is Ash Wednesday. It is the first day of Lent. For Lent I have given up cookies. This is this is the first time I have given anything up for Lent. I was not raised in a religion that required giving up anything for Lent. In fact, the religious make up of my family […]

Fiddler’s Green Calling

Damn… two good ones sailed off for Fiddler’s Green. My friends Paul and John, both passed away yesterday. I knew the two of them through the sailing forums. Even though Paul switched to powerboats after he got an LVAD implanted, he was always a sailor at heart. I guess his heart finally gave out on […]

Would I Do It Again?

The Serenity Prayer or Neibhur’s Prayer starts with an almost universally recongized: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. My friend Grant wrote that being a twin isn’t always easy, but he wouldn’t trade it […]

Food and Memory

Today, I had cheese stuffed tortellini for the first time in over a decade. It is strange, but I didn’t realize that I hadn’t bought or made this type of pasta in over ten years, even though it was always one of my favorites. It was also a dish that I cooked a lot for […]

Happy New Year’s Eve 2011

Happy New Year’s Eve to all my friends and family. This is the last day of the year and I, for one, am very happy to see 2011 end. I hope the New Year brings all of you success, health and happiness. I hope that 2012 will be a better year for many of us. […]

The Weather Goddess

A little over ten-and-a-half years ago, Gee came home for the last time. It was Thursday, June 7th, 2001. She had been released from the hospital, where she had been since May 28th, Memorial Day, for home hospice care. As I carried her into the house, what she said to me was bittersweet. She said, […]

Another Year

This month marks another year that has passed by. This particular time of year is among the most difficult for me for many reasons. This year it has been the most difficult of my life thus far in many ways, and this year–2011–is one that I will be very happy to see end…for 2012 must […]

Thanksgiving 2011

Wishing all my family and friends a very Happy Thanksgiving. May this holiday find all of you happy, healthy and safe. I ask that my beloved weather goddess watch over all of you during your travels this week. May you all have safe journeys to warm hearths and berths this week. Even though this has […]

Happy Birthday…

I would like to wish a very happy birthday to my father and Bea, Ellie’s little sister. They were both born on this day, though many years apart. I would like to wish them both many more birthdays to come, as well as hope that they both have a fantastic day and a good year […]


Loyalty is both a vice and a virtue. My twin used to tell me that my extreme loyalty to the people I love was one of my greatest strengths and greatest weaknesses at the same time, because I often gave it to people who really weren’t worthy of it. I’d have to agree he was […]

Doors in the Mind

A book I am reading says: Perhaps the greatest faculty our minds possess is the ability to cope with pain. Classic thinking teaches us of the four doors of the mind, which everyone moves through according to their need. First is the door of sleep. Sleep offers us a retreat from the world and all […]

Walking Away

I have tried everything in my power to get Ellie’s family to try and see that she has a problem. I have given them all the evidence and documentation of Ellie’s problem, but they will not even look at it. It just seems that they can not or will not accept that this is a […]

A Prayer for Ellie

Tomorrow, I will give Ellie’s mother all the documentation I have about why I believe that Ellie is ill and needs help. I hope that the reasoning and conclusions that I came up with as well as all the evidence that I have, in Ellie’s own words, from my conversations with her, and from my […]


I found this definition of Querencia on a website: “In Spanish, querencia describes a place where one feels safe, a place from which one’s strength of character is drawn, a place where one feels at home.” I have always defined it as it was taught to me by a friend many years ago–home of the […]

Missing Ellie

I’m lying on the foredeck of my friend’s sailboat, thinking about and missing Ellie. When she was younger, she used to love sleeping on the foredeck of S/V Pretty Gee. She also used to curl up under the dodger, above the S/V Pretty Gee’s companionway.  Right now, she appears to be missing in action and […]

Cruising on s/v Slight Breeze

Tomorrow, I head down to Connecticut for the annual summer cruise on my friend’s boat s/v Slight Breeze for a nine-day cruise. This will be the second year I am participating in his summer cruise. He asked me along last year when one of his normal crew, and the only other sailor in the crew, […]

Virtual Friends

Over the past few weeks, I’ve received a lot of support and love from friends that I met via online sailing forums and through blogging. While many of these friendships started out on the Internet, I have been lucky to meet quite a few of them in real life as well. They range across a […]

Protected: A letter to Ellie

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Miniature Peanut Butter Cups

The other day I was in West Marine, picking up some supplies for s/v Pretty Gee.  There was a bucket of assorted candies at the register, so I dug through it to find the miniature Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.  The cashier commented that those seemed to the be most popular candy they had in the […]

Crossing the Line

Recently, I encountered something that is quite upsetting.  One of my neighbors has been very aggressively requesting donations for the American Cancer Society.  While I am a huge fan of the American Cancer Society and all the good work they do, I think that the behavior of Carolyn Burke is way over the line.  She […]

s/v Felix—Delivery leg Norfolk, VA to Belhaven, NC

Earlier this year I was asked by John and Lorie if I could help them with moving their boat, s/v Felix, south for the winter.  Since the sailing season here in New England was over, and they are good friends, I volunteered to help with the leg from Norfolk, VA to Belhaven, NC. After discussing […]