Adrift at Sea —Dan’s blog on dankim.com

I’m finally starting on a book I said I’d write almost four years ago. The title of the book, or at least the working title I have for the book, is No Greater Love.

The book is about My Life with Gee. Gee is my late wife. She is quite possibly the most gracious person I have ever met. She is also one of the strongest and most beautiful people I’ve ever known. She and I were together for a brief period of time, but it was one of the most amazing experiences in my life.

Below is the passage I’ve decided on using as the introduction to the book. You can read a bit more about My Life with Gee here on my regular website.

It is hard to believe that a woman I met a little over five years ago, and that I knew for only 23 months and one day, could have changed my life in so many ways. If you asked me whether it was worth it… if I would do it all again… knowing that I would lose her after such a short time together… or to make the choice to never have known her… I would not change a thing I did.

The person I am today could have never existed had I not met Gee. She still inspires me to be a better person than I could have ever been without having met her. The best description of her is still the one that I got in the first e-mail I ever received from Woo, Gee’s best friend. Woo wrote, “Yet we get to know her, love her and be loved by her… how privileged are we.” I find that in some ways, much of the anger I’ve felt over her death was not because of the unfairness of it all, but because of how unfair it is for all those people who never got a chance to know my beloved Gee. As I write this, more time has passed than I had with her, but I can hardly remember my life without Gee.

I am hoping, that through these pages and my writings, that you may get to know Gee, at least a little bit. The journey that Gee and I walked together was not an easy one…and though not the easiest journey, Gee and I had a truly joyous and fulfilling life together. We knew more joy and happiness and more true love than most people will ever see.

I have no regrets about my time with Gee… Just a simple wish… that we had just a little more time together. I truly do hope that all of you who read our story, can see a glimpse of the happiness that I found with Gee, and I wish that you find such happiness and love for yourselves.

I am planning on dedicating the proceeds from the book to a foundation in Gee’s memory. I’m also working on a website for the foundation. It is under construction. In many ways, working on this book, about Gee, and setting up the foundation in her memory are the final steps in my passage back into life, after her death. The title of this blog, “Adrift at Sea,” is an apt description of the way I have felt since her death.